To begin, select your attachment style.
- [[I already know my attachment style|Choose Style]]
- [[I don’t know mine – Take the test|Attachment Test]] Select your attachment style:
- [[Anxious Attachment|Anxious Path]]
- [[Avoidant Attachment|Avoidant Path]]
- [[Secure Attachment|Secure Path]]
- [[Disorganized attachment|Disorganized Path]]Do you often worry that people will leave you or stop loving you?
- [[Yes|Anxious 1]]
- [[No|Question 2]]
- [[I feel both scared of rejection and scared of closeness|Disorganized 1]] Your response suggests some anxious attachment traits.
Let’s answer more questions to confirm.
[[Next question|Question 2]]Do you feel uncomfortable depending on others or having them depend on you?
- [[Yes|Avoidant 1]]
- [[No|Question 3]]
- [[Yes, but I also crave closeness|Disorganized 2]] Your response suggests some disorganized attachment traits.
Let’s answer more questions to confirm.
[[Next question|Question 2]]
Your response suggests some avoidant attachment traits.
Let’s answer more questions to confirm.
[[Next question|Question 3]]When you feel upset in a relationship, what do you do?
- [[I get anxious and need reassurance|Anxious 2]]
- [[I shut down and need space|Avoidant 2]]
- [[I express my feelings openly|Question 4]]
- [[I feel frozen, not sure how to react|Disorganized 3]] You seem to have conflicting feelings about closeness and independence.
Let’s ask more questions to confirm.
[[Next question|Question 3]]Your response suggests an anxious attachment style.
Let’s ask one more question to confirm.
[[Next question|Question 4]]You seem to handle conflict in a balanced way.
Let’s ask one more question to confirm.
[[Next question|Question 4]]You may experience fear or confusion when dealing with emotions in relationships.
Let’s ask one more question to confirm.
[[Next question|Question 4]]Do you generally trust that the people in your life care about you?
- [[Yes|Secure Result]]
- [[No, I often feel unsure|Anxious Result]]
- [[I prefer not to rely on anyone|Avoidant Result]]
- [[I want closeness but also feel afraid of it|Disorganized Result]]
Your answers suggest you have a **Secure Attachment Style**.
This means you are generally comfortable with closeness and independence.
Let’s explore how secure attachment helps in real-life situations.
[[Start the game as Secure|Secure Path]](text-colour:#f4fce3)+(bg:#1c7ed6)[=
Your Text Here(text-colour:#ebfbee)+(bg:#0ca678)[Your Text Here]Your answers suggest you have an **Anxious Attachment Style**.
This means you may crave closeness but also fear rejection or abandonment.
Let’s explore how this plays out in relationships and how to develop healthier patterns.
[[Start the game as Anxious|Anxious Path]]Your answers suggest you have an **Avoidant Attachment Style**.
This means you may value independence but struggle with emotional closeness.
Let’s explore how this plays out in relationships and how to develop healthier patterns.
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Your Text HereYour answers suggest you have a **Disorganized Attachment Style**.
This means you may feel both a deep desire for closeness and a fear of it.
You might struggle with trusting others and feeling safe in relationships.
Let’s explore how this plays out and ways to develop more security in relationships.
[[Start the game as Disorganized|Disorganized Path]](text-colour:#fff4e6)+(bg:#f03e3e)[=
Your Text HereYou have an **Anxious Attachment Style**.
This means you may crave closeness but also fear rejection or abandonment.
In this game, you’ll face relationship scenarios where your choices impact your emotional security.
Your choices will have immediate feedback to help you recognize anxious patterns and develop healthier ones.
[[Start the game|Scenario 1: Waiting for a a Text Reply]]You have an **Avoidant Attachment Style**.
This means you value independence and may struggle with emotional closeness.
In this game, you’ll face relationship scenarios where your choices impact connection and trust.
Your choices will have immediate feedback to help you recognize avoidant behaviors and practice secure ones.
[[Start the game|Scenario 1: Someone Wants to Get Close]]You have a **Secure Attachment Style**.
In this game, you’ll face relationship scenarios that test your secure behaviors and challenge you to handle situations with healthy communication.
[[Start the game|Scenario 1: A Friend is Distant]]You have a **Disorganized Attachment Style**.
This means you may experience both **fear of closeness** and **fear of abandonment**, leading to conflicting behaviors in relationships.
In this game, you’ll face relationship scenarios where your choices impact connection, trust, and emotional safety.
Your choices will have immediate feedback to help you recognize disorganized behaviors and work toward secure attachment.
[[Start the game|Scenario 1: A close friend Cancels Plans]]Your close friend has been acting distant lately.
They don’t reply as quickly as before, and when you ask if something is wrong, they say “I’m fine.”
What do you do?
- [[Give them space and check in later|Feedback 1 – Healthy Approach]]
- [[Press them for answers immediately|Feedback 2 – Overstepping]]
- [[Assume they don’t care and distance yourself too|Feedback 3 – Insecure Reaction]]✅ Great choice!
Giving them space shows you trust the friendship.
Later, they reach out and explain they were just overwhelmed with personal stuff.
A secure person balances concern with respect for others’ boundaries.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2: A Conflict with a Partner]]⚠️ Be careful!
Pressing for answers too soon might make them feel pressured.
They respond with "I said I’m fine!" and withdraw further.
Next time, try giving space while showing you’re there for them.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2: A Conflict with a Partner]]❌ Not the best choice.
Assuming they don’t care and pulling away yourself leads to unnecessary distance.
Later, you realize they were just going through a tough time.
Secure relationships require trust—next time, check in calmly and don’t assume the worst.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2: A Conflict with a Partner]]You and your partner have a small disagreement about weekend plans.
They want to stay in, but you were hoping for a night out.
How do you respond?
- [[Withdraw and say "Never mind, do what you want"|Feedback 6 – Passive]]
- [[Get frustrated and insist on going out|Feedback 5 – Controlling]]
- [[Suggest a compromise|Feedback 4 – Healthy Resolution]]✅ Great job!
Suggesting a compromise ensures both of you feel heard.
You agree to a cozy movie night today and a dinner out next weekend.
Secure people navigate conflicts with flexibility and mutual respect.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3: Supporting a Loved one]]⚠️ Be mindful!
Insisting on your way may make your partner feel unheard.
They reluctantly agree but seem distant for the rest of the night.
Compromise helps maintain balance in relationships.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3: Supporting a Loved one]]❌ Not the best response.
Saying "Never mind" and withdrawing makes your partner feel like you don’t actually express your needs.
Later, you feel disappointed, but they never knew how much it mattered to you.
Secure people communicate openly instead of bottling things up.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3: Supporting a Loved one]]A friend comes to you feeling overwhelmed with personal issues.
They say, "I don’t even know where to start."
How do you respond?
- [[Give immediate advice without asking what they need|Feedback 8 – Unhelpful Support]]
- [[Listen without judgment and ask how you can help|Feedback 7 – Secure Support]]
- [[Change the topic to something lighter|Feedback 9 – Avoiding Emotional Depth]]✅ Excellent!
You listen patiently and ask, "How can I support you?"
Your friend opens up and feels safe with you.
Secure attachment means being a reliable and understanding presence for others.
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending]]⚠️ Be cautious!
Jumping in with advice without asking what they need may make them feel unheard.
Sometimes, people just need someone to listen.
Next time, try asking, "Do you want advice, or do you just want to vent?"
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending]]❌ Not the best choice.
Changing the subject makes your friend feel dismissed.
Later, they don’t open up to you again because they felt unsupported.
Secure people are open to deep emotional conversations when needed.
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending]]Congratulations! 🎉
You’ve completed the Secure Attachment Path!
Key Takeaways:
✔ Trusting relationships require open communication and balance.
✔ Giving space while remaining emotionally available is key.
✔ Healthy conflict resolution involves compromise, not control or avoidance.
✔ Supporting others means listening, not just fixing.
By practicing these habits, you strengthen your relationships and maintain a secure attachment style.
Would you like to:
- [[Try another attachment style|Choose Style]]
- [[End game|Game Over]]You've completed the game!
Your choices reflect how you approach relationships.
The more you practice healthy communication, the more secure your relationships will be. You text your friend in the morning, but they haven't responded all day.
You start to feel uneasy. What do you do?
- [[Double text them to check if they’re mad|Feedback 1 – Reassurance Seeking]]
- [[Wait but overthink what you might have done wrong|Feedback 2 – Overanalyzing]]
- [[Remind yourself they’re probably just busy|Feedback 3 – Secure Approach]]⚠️ Be mindful!
Texting again for reassurance may seem harmless, but it can create pressure in relationships.
Later, your friend replies, “Sorry, I was super busy!” and you realize they weren’t ignoring you.
Instead of seeking constant validation, try self-soothing and trusting the relationship.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2: Partner is acting different]]❌ Not the best response.
Spending all day wondering what you did wrong only fuels anxiety.
Later, your friend replies like nothing happened, and you realize your fears were unnecessary.
Secure relationships require trust, not overthinking every interaction.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2: Partner is acting different]]✅ Great choice!
You remind yourself that they’re probably busy and focus on your own tasks.
Later, your friend texts back saying, “Hey! Sorry for the delay.”
Secure attachment means trusting the bond without needing constant reassurance.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2: Partner is acting different]]Your partner seems quieter than usual today.
You start feeling anxious that something is wrong.
What do you do?
- [[Assume they’re losing interest in you|Feedback 5 – Jumping to Conclusions]]
- [[Give them space but check in calmly later|Feedback 6 – Secure Communication]]
- [[Ask them repeatedly if they’re upset|Feedback 4 – Seeking Too Much Reassurance]] ❌ Not the best response.
Assuming they’re losing interest makes you act distant too, which creates unnecessary tension.
Later, they tell you they were just tired, and you realize your fear wasn’t based on reality.
Secure relationships require checking in without making assumptions.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3: Fear of Rejection]]✅ Well done!
You give them space and later say, “You seem a little quiet today. Everything okay?”
They appreciate the check-in and explain they were just tired from work.
This approach keeps the relationship open and secure.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3: Fear of Rejection]]⚠️ Be careful!
Constantly asking if they’re upset can make them feel overwhelmed.
They reply, “I’m fine,” but seem irritated, which only increases your anxiety.
Instead, try waiting before asking, and check in with a calm, open-ended question.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3: Fear of Rejection]]You’re planning to ask a friend to hang out, but they’ve been busy lately.
A part of you worries they don’t want to spend time with you.
What do you do?
- [[Invite them directly, without fear|Feedback 9 – Secure Confidence]]
- [[Ask but say “It’s okay if you don’t want to”|Feedback 8 – Insecure Framing]]
- [[Decide not to ask to avoid feeling rejected|Feedback 7 – Fear of Rejection]]
✅ Perfect choice!
You invite them directly: “Hey, want to hang out this weekend?”
They respond, “I’d love to! I was just really busy last week.”
Secure people express their needs confidently without fearing rejection.
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending 1]]⚠️ Watch out!
Saying, “It’s okay if you don’t want to” makes it sound like you expect rejection.
Your friend responds, “Of course I want to hang out!” but now they sense your insecurity.
Confidence in relationships comes from believing you are worthy of connection.
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending 1]]❌ Not the best choice.
Avoiding asking out of fear only reinforces anxious attachment.
Later, your friend invites you to something, and you realize they weren’t avoiding you at all.
Secure attachment means expressing your needs without assuming rejection.
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending 1]]Congratulations! 🎉
You’ve completed the Anxious Attachment Path!
Key Takeaways for Overcoming Anxious Attachment:
✔ Trust your relationships instead of seeking constant reassurance.
✔ Avoid overanalyzing situations—people are usually just busy, not ignoring you.
✔ Communicate your feelings without assuming rejection.
✔ Confidence strengthens relationships; fear weakens them.
Would you like to:
- [[Try another attachment style|Choose Style]]
- [[End game|Game Over]]A new friend starts opening up to you about their personal struggles.
You feel slightly uncomfortable with the depth of the conversation.
How do you respond?
- [[Change the subject to something lighter|Feedback 1 – Avoiding Emotional Depth]]
- [[Listen but feel emotionally detached|Feedback 2 – Surface-Level Engagement]]
- [[Acknowledge their feelings and engage|Feedback 3 – Secure Response]]❌ Not the best choice.
Changing the subject signals that deep conversations make you uncomfortable.
Your friend notices and stops sharing, creating emotional distance.
Secure connections require emotional availability—try engaging instead of deflecting.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2]]⚠️ Be careful!
You listen, but you don’t respond in a way that shows you care.
Your friend thanks you but doesn’t open up as much in the future.
Deep connections need mutual emotional investment—next time, show that you’re present.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2]]✅ Great choice!
You acknowledge their feelings with, “That sounds really difficult. I’m here if you need to talk.”
Your friend feels supported and trusts you more.
Secure attachment means being emotionally present while maintaining your boundaries.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2]]
Your partner brings up an issue in your relationship.
They say, “I feel like you don’t open up to me emotionally.”
How do you respond?
- [[Acknowledge their feelings and try to open up|Feedback 6 – Secure Communication 1]]
- [[Say you just aren’t an emotional person|Feedback 4 – Dismissing Feelings]]
- [[Withdraw from the conversation|Feedback 5 – Shutting Down]] ❌ Not the best choice.
Saying “I’m just not emotional” makes your partner feel unheard.
They withdraw, feeling like they can’t connect with you.
Avoidant tendencies can push people away—try engaging instead of shutting down.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3]]⚠️ Be careful!
You go silent, hoping the conversation will end.
Your partner grows frustrated, feeling like they’re talking to a wall.
Healthy relationships require communication—even small steps matter.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3]]A close friend is struggling and asks if they can vent to you.
You feel drained and unsure if you want to deal with emotional conversations right now.
What do you do?
- [[Tell them you’re busy and avoid the conversation|Feedback 7 – Avoiding Support]]
- [[Set a boundary but check in later|Feedback 9 – Secure Balance]]
- [[Listen briefly but don’t engage emotionally|Feedback 8 – Halfhearted Presence]]
✅ Well done!
You say, “I know I struggle with this, but I want to work on it.”
Your partner feels reassured that you care, even if it’s difficult for you.
Secure relationships grow when both partners try to understand each other.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3]]
❌ Not the best choice.
Saying you’re busy without following up makes your friend feel unsupported.
They stop reaching out to you for emotional support.
Even small gestures of support help maintain strong relationships.
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending 2]]✅ Perfect choice!
You say, “I want to be there for you, but I’m feeling drained right now. Can we talk later?”
Later, you check in with them, showing you care without overwhelming yourself.
This is a **secure balance** between supporting others and maintaining boundaries.
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending 2]]⚠️ Be cautious!
You listen, but you don’t ask any questions or show concern.
Your friend notices your lack of engagement and doesn’t feel truly supported.
Emotional connections require active listening.
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending 2]]Congratulations! 🎉
You’ve completed the Avoidant Attachment Path!
Key Takeaways for Overcoming Avoidant Attachment:
✔ Emotional closeness doesn’t mean losing independence.
✔ Avoiding emotions creates distance—small efforts to engage make a big difference.
✔ Boundaries are healthy, but shutting down isn’t.
✔ Secure connections require trust, effort, and presence.
Would you like to:
- [[Try another attachment style|Choose Style]]
- [[End game|Game Over]]You were looking forward to spending time with your friend, but they cancel last minute, saying they’re busy.
How do you react?
- [[Feel hurt and decide to ignore them as payback|Feedback 1 – Fear-Based Withdrawal]]
- [[Worry they don’t like you anymore and overthink everything|Feedback 2 – Anxiety & Fear of Rejection]]
- [[Feel disappointed but ask to reschedule|Feedback 3 – Secure Approach 1]]❌ Not the best choice.
Ignoring them as “payback” creates more distance and uncertainty.
Your friend doesn’t understand why you’re upset, and the friendship becomes strained.
Instead of reacting with withdrawal, try expressing your feelings openly.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2: Partner's MIxed Signals]]⚠️ Be careful!
Worrying that they don’t like you fuels unnecessary anxiety.
Later, they text saying, “Hey, sorry again! Let’s meet next week,” and you realize your fear was unfounded.
Secure relationships require **trust**—try assuming the best instead of fearing the worst.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2: Partner's MIxed Signals]]✅ Great choice!
You say, “That’s disappointing, but I understand. Want to reschedule?”
Your friend appreciates your understanding, strengthening your bond.
Secure attachment means balancing **emotional honesty** with **trust** in relationships.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 2: Partner's MIxed Signals]]Your partner acts affectionate one day but distant the next.
This unpredictability makes you feel uneasy and unsure how to respond.
What do you do?
- [[Calmly ask if everything is okay|Feedback 6 – Secure Communication 2]]
- [[Pull away first to protect yourself|Feedback 4 – Avoidant Reaction]]
- [[Cling to them and demand reassurance|Feedback 5 – Anxious Reaction]] ✅ Great choice!
You say, “I’ve noticed you seem distant sometimes. Is something going on?”
Your partner opens up about being stressed, and you both feel closer.
Secure relationships thrive on **calm, open conversations instead of reactive behaviors**.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3: INTERNAL CONFLICT]]❌ Not the best choice.
Pulling away first **out of fear** can create a cycle where both of you keep distancing from each other.
Your partner feels confused, and emotional connection weakens.
Instead, try **addressing concerns openly** rather than shutting down.
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3: INTERNAL CONFLICT]]⚠️ Be mindful!
Clinging too much or **demanding constant reassurance** can overwhelm your partner.
They may feel pressured, making them withdraw even more.
Secure attachment means **giving space while maintaining emotional connection.**
[[Next Scenario|Scenario 3: INTERNAL CONFLICT]]You feel like you **want** to be close to others, but when they get too close, you feel overwhelmed and push them away.
How do you handle this?
- [[Ignore your feelings and pretend everything is fine|Feedback 7 – Suppressing Emotions]]
- [[Acknowledge your fear and work through it|Feedback 9 – Secure Growth]]
- [[Sabotage relationships by creating drama|Feedback 8 – Pushing People Away]]
❌ Not the best choice.
Ignoring your emotions doesn’t make them go away—it just delays dealing with them.
Over time, this avoidance can lead to **unexpected outbursts or deeper disconnection**.
Secure attachment requires **facing emotions rather than burying them.**
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending 3]]⚠️ Be careful!
Creating drama as a way to test relationships can push away people who genuinely care about you.
This cycle makes relationships unstable and reinforces **fear of abandonment**.
Instead, try expressing your concerns in a calm and healthy way.
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending 3]]✅ Perfect choice!
You acknowledge your fears but remind yourself that **it’s okay to be vulnerable**.
You decide to take small steps toward emotional openness, making relationships more stable.
Healing from disorganized attachment takes time, but **awareness and effort lead to secure bonds**.
[[Final Reflection & Tips|Ending 3]]Congratulations! 🎉
You’ve completed the Disorganized Attachment Path!
Key Takeaways for Healing from Disorganized Attachment:
✔ Fear of closeness and fear of abandonment can **coexist**—recognizing this is the first step.
✔ Withdrawing or pushing people away **reinforces insecurity**—expressing emotions openly helps.
✔ Small steps toward emotional **trust and consistency** lead to **secure relationships**.
✔ It’s okay to feel fear—what matters is how you respond to it.
Would you like to:
- [[Try another attachment style|Choose Style]]
- [[End game|Game Over]]